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Sound Off- KissingJul 1, 2008 by Sophie Sizemore, Marcus French
She Says Kiss- Kiss, Bang- Bang! It all starts with a kiss. Nations fall and history is made. Lives change and miracles occur; it always starts with a kiss. The world revolves around romance and romance runs on love. Love is the most powerful human sentiment and our lives are transformed because of it. We want it, we need it, and we yearn for it. We spend our entire lives in search of it, and will sacrifice everything once we find it. A good first kiss can spawn a great romance. It is the initial point of intimacy between two people, and it has the power to guide the heart and steer the soul. Fueled by pure and raw emotion, a kiss can alter the course of one's life. It can lead to an endless myriad of possibilities, and break the curse of life lived without love. You see, with out love, we are in a mere state of dormancy, and like Princess Aurora in the timeless classic "Sleeping Beauty," we can only be awakened by the power found in love's first kiss. I know it sounds cheesy, but bare with me for a second. I don't believe in fairytales, but I do believe in love. I believe in the power of a kiss, and yes I am of those who think that a good one can be more intimate and meaningful than the act of sex itself. Although sex is awesome, amazing and great, a kiss has the ability to hold more magic than an entire night spent in the sack. Granted, sex is more satisfying, but I don't close my eyes for it.
A kiss is more intimate and stripped down. Your feelings are your only weapon, and the passion imbued is your connection. You are touching each others body for the first time, and you close your eyes to heighten your senses. The warmth of their touch in combination with their arousing scent has the ability to transport you deep in to the throes of passion and can even seal your fate. A good kiss needs no technique. It doesn't follow any rules or time frame. It knows of no boundaries and can be as expansive as the sea itself. Of course we are not characters in a Danielle Steele novel, so not every kiss is going to be as poignant as I have made it sound, but it would be nice. Now, I am not the most romantic girl in the world nor do I fill my head with fantasies when it comes to love, but I am largely driven by the hopes of one day finding my other half. We all are. Our hopes are what keep us alive. It is what makes us get back up after every heartache or failed relationship.
Our hopes are what will drive us to kiss every frog until we find our charming prince or princess. So yeah, there may be some bad experiences along the way. We may find a couple frogs that are allergic to dental floss and manners, but it only puts us one step closer to finding our heart's true love. So until then, kiss every frog you meet, keep your heart open and your Binaca handy because you never know where it might end or what can begin.
XOXO, Sophie Sizemore
He Says
Very few things in life are as special as the first kiss. It signifies so much: New beginnings, happy endings, and everything in between. Hollywood has dedicated a million miles of film to this natural phenomenon, and it’s something that fairy tales are made of.
Sometimes, though, the first kiss doesn’t go as well as planned. This can result in an uncomfortable and confusing situation for both parties involved. The key is to be aware. Keep your eyes and ears open, and you’ll have no problem judging when the right is time. I remember my first kiss like it was yesterday. The taste of that warm, wet, goodness hit me like a spike in my vein, and hooked me for life. Even at the tender age of 9, I knew I was on to something big. Her name is not important because the act was totally spiritual. She was my best friend’s babysitter, and 6 years my senior. It was during an introductory session of “Seven Minutes in Heaven” that this pubescent princess asked me if I had ever kissed a girl. Up to that point, my lips had only known the cheeks of heavily made-up family members on birthdays and Christmas. The thought of being my first brought a confident smile to her face. This girl was clearly into my s**t and was about to make sure I knew it! To tell you the truth, I’m not even sure if she asked me to kiss her or not. Either way, shortly after I made my virginal confession, a great force urged me towards her lips. I could not resist, nor did I want to. Before I knew it, I was putting it on her “Notebook”-style: deep and passionate-like. To this day I remember the look on her face as I pulled away. The flutter in her eyes mirrored the flutter I had in my chest. Her lips tasted like bubble gum. I went back in for more. The reason I told you that story was to prove a point: When it comes to the kissing game, timing is everything. You’ve got to know when to make your move. Jump the gun, and you can kiss your chance at lip-locking bliss goodbye. You see, a woman will tell you when she wants to be kissed. All you have to do is read the signs. There I was, a mere lad, standing there in “Heaven.” The signs were crystal clear to me: The giggle, the hair flip, and the subtle lick of the lips. It all told me one thing, “Kiss me, you fool!” The rest is history. Misinterpreting the signs, though, can be disastrous, and tough to recover from. It’s the whole reason why I watch those damn dating shows on Real TV. It gives you an idea of the types of dudes that are out there giving men a bad name. I love when these guys get over-cocky-confident that their game is dead-on when it’s actually going the other way. As a third party, you can see it coming. Sometimes it makes you want to yell at the TV, “Don’t do it, you nitwit! Don’t you see what her body language is telling you?!” You go in uninvited, and you’ll be lucky enough to get a cheek my friend. I’ve seen guys get the hand for jumping the gun, but nothing compares to the ice cold, ego-busting, all-out pull-away. That one’s usually followed with an “EEW” and a laugh. Lol! That’s f**ked up. How does one recover from a situation like this? Well, I guess each scenario is different. What I can tell you is that once you commit, you’ve got to see it through. Don’t just go in there all “half-assed” and come away with nothing. If you’re going to go in for the kill, go in “Gone with the Wind-style”, you feel me. There’s got to be passion in your decision because if she’s NOT already into you, it just may be your confidence that wins her over in the end. If that doesn’t work, at least you made contact; you know, broke the ice. Just make sure you don’t hold her head when you kiss her. That might get you slapped! The key to recovering from an unprovoked invasion of space is to keep the mood light. Don’t let your ego try to fix something that can be easily remedied with a smile. Face it, you’re a loser, and she knows it! You may as well embrace the fact, and have a good laugh together. Who knows, maybe your good humor will spark a comeback later on. I know I would have no problem laughing at myself in this situation. From all the dating show mishaps I’ve seen, I could just imagine how funny I would look. Fortunately for me, I’ve never been one to go looking for the kiss. This greatly reduces my chances of misinterpreting a sign. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing that I like more than a good make out session, but I’m not a kissing bandit. I like a kiss to happen without premeditation; “Lady and the Tramp-style” if you will. Forget the cat and mouse games. Just let nature take its course. Some guys go on the defensive when they get shot down. These are the no class, “You F**kin’ bitch”- type guys who lose sight of the big picture as soon as their egos get bruised. Women are delicate flowers, and should be handled accordingly. Being a dick because one of these lovely creatures wouldn’t entertain your poorly timed, ill-conceived advance is no way to act toward nature’s most tender of blossoms. Besides, it’s a sure-fire way to ruin your chances at a second chance that’s for sure. Never burn your bridges! As I sit here and think back to those sacred seven minutes I spent in “heaven”, I have to wonder how it was that I knew; knew that my best friend’s babysitter had given me the green light to come in for the kiss. How can something that’s never been taught be so fully understood? It was instinct, I tell you, animal instinct. Everybody has it; you just have to be able to feel it. Doing so can mean the difference between getting slapped-up and laughed at, and sharing a moment that transcends both time and space. Pucker up! Submit your CommentsPlease login to post your Comments. |
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